How To Be Alone

How To Be Alone

As an introvert, being alone is something I’m pretty skilled at. I love being alone, I crave it, and when I don’t get it, life feels pretty overwhelming. But not everyone feels that way. There seems to be a misconception that being alone equals loneliness when actually that is far from the truth.

Nowadays, alone time is rare. There’s always something to be doing or someone to meet up with, so getting some time alone is something that you need to make a priority, because being alone can be so beneficial. Even if you live with a partner or housemates, it’s important that you make time for yourself too.

You can think more clearly when you’re alone and you’ll be more productive as a result. It also gives you time for problem solving and deep thinking, and by understanding yourself better, your relationships will improve to.

But, for lots of people, spending time alone can be a challenge. Having spoken to some of my more extroverted friends, I’ve found that they hate being alone, and rarely go out and do anything by themselves.

I spend loads of time by myself and I love it, so whilst spending time with a group of people makes me feel incredibly nervous, doing things alone is just second nature to me.

So if you’re a person who struggles to spend time alone here are some ways that might help.

Understand why you always want to be around others

Some people just love social interaction and want to surround themselves with friends all the time. This is great, but make sure you’re not doing it purely because you don’t want to be alone. Being alone means time to think and that doesn’t appeal to everybody, because thinking too much can cause pain. But you also shouldn’t just be filling your time with seeing others as a way to avoid thinking.

(P.S. I’m not saying all extroverts are running from their thoughts!)

Start small

If you want to do more things on your own but aren’t sure where to start, then start small. Take yourself out shopping or for a coffee before moving onto some more daunting tasks like going to the cinema by yourself or for a meal. But, I promise that no one will think you’re weird for doing these things alone.

Embrace it

Alone time shouldn’t be scary. It’s the perfect excuse to do whatever you want with no judgement from anyone else. Get creative doing something you can’t usually do around your friends and you’ll soon find that you’re more focused on the activity than you are on being alone.


One thing I hate is when my boyfriend goes out for the whole day and I’m left with a huge expanse of time alone. Like I’ve said, I absolutely love being alone but when the person you spend the majority of your time with isn’t there for a period of time, it can feel pretty lonely. To combat this, I like to plan. I decide roughly what I’m going to do with my day, and make sure I’m not spending 8 hours feeling like I’m desperate for human contact.

Do you love alone time or can’t stand it? Let me know in the comments!

Rachel x-x-x



  1. October 14, 2017 / 9:16 am

    Love your writing and your blog – I think the way you covered this topic was fantastic 🙂

    Alice // The Rose Glow

  2. October 14, 2017 / 9:44 am

    I really love this post! I too thrive on alone time – I wouldn’t think twice about going shopping or to a café on my own. I’m completely happy like this, but for a long time I’ve felt like I “should” be more outgoing, I “should” have loads of friends and be with people all the time. I remember working in Tesco when I was a student, and going out of my way to try to be more extroverted with workmates, but it was exhausting – it just wasn’t me! I’m growing to accept myself as I am.

    Sarah x

  3. October 14, 2017 / 10:04 am

    Love it, Rachel!

    This is one of the big reasons why I love solo hiking so much. Where better to escape and let your mind wander than in the wild?

  4. Stephen Thain
    October 15, 2017 / 10:08 am

    I do love alone time, especially with my life at the moment. I feel I need it to recharge my batteries and feel like I am doing some ‘me time’ I wonder how many men actually want alone time?

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