Stop Making Yourself Smaller
I mean this both figuratively and literally. Literally, stop living your life around food, exercise and body image. Just stop. It’s not worth it. Your body is capable of so much, wild things, but do you have to push it to those limits? Nope, not if you don’t want to. Yes, if you do. Sorted, thank you.
Now, let’s talk about the other kind of making yourself smaller. Fitting yourself into tiny spaces to please others. I’m talking about sending those emails that end with “no worries if you can’t,” “if that’s alright with you,” and “if that makes sense.” We spend so much of our lives fitting ourselves around others and we need to stop. Take up space, ask for what you want and soon you’ll see that the world is throwing things your way that you never dreamed of. Ask and ye shall receive. Whilst we’re on this note, stop apologising for literally everything. Yes ladies, I’m looking at you.
Stop Not Asking For Help
I think it’s safe to say that most of us have been in a situation where we should have asked for help and didn’t. Whether that’s from a professional or from friends, we could all do with stepping over our ego and just speaking up. It’s hard, it’s awkward and it makes us vulnerable but sometimes we just need that extra helping hand. If you need help from your GP, then make an appointment. If you need help from a friend, send that text. It might feel embarrassing but it’ll help sevenfold.
Stop Airing Your Life On Social Media
We’re all guilty of it. Sending that passive aggressive message or posting that selfie of you looking FIT with a caption that’s crying for attention. Post the things that make you feel good without needing that instant social gratification. Post the holiday snaps, the meals out, the outfits that make you feel banging because they feel good, not because you know it’ll get a tonne of likes to feed your ego. Stop posting those shady comments that get people replying with “inbox me babe.” Use social media to post the things that make you feel great, not to make you feel great.
Stop Believing That You’re Not In Control
Weird flex I know, but turns out that you’re actually in control of your own life. Mad, right? And yet we’re all sitting here waiting for that perfect opportunity to come along at the perfect time. Chances are, it’s not going to happen and you’re going to end up feeling deflated.
Make things happen. Make those vision boards. Manifest those dreams. Hustle hustle hustle until you get what you want. Because no one else is going to do the hard work for you.
Stop Being A Negative Nancy
I’m the worst for this. But just stop being a negative Nancy. Yes this takes effort. It’s my go to, to shit all over a situation before I’ve actually thought about what’s coming out of my mouth, and you know where that gets you? Absolutely nowhere. These days I write down 3 things every day that I’m grateful for, so even on the days that feel rubbish, I can look back and know that there was something good in them.
These are the 5 things I’m determined to stop doing in 2020. Let me know yours in the comments!